How financial planning could give you the confidence to spend more

The importance of saving is drummed into us from a very early age. As a child, for example, you may have had a moneybox and been encouraged to save your spare coins.

As you get older, this extends into saving for university, saving up for a house, saving for retirement, and so on.

But what about spending? While looking after your financial future is indisputably important, so is taking care of your financial present.

Saving can become an ingrained habit that’s tough to break. Equally, spending can be a specific skill, and, like any other, it takes practice and support.

Read on to find out how having a strong financial plan in place can help you strike the right balance between spending for today and saving for tomorrow.

Anxiety over spending could mean missing out on fulfilling opportunities and experiences in the here and now

There have probably been occasions throughout your life where you’ve had to cut back a little, or your budget has prevented you from buying something.

But if this becomes a persistent pattern of unjustified frugality, it can affect your everyday life.

This fear of spending can be deep-rooted, and for some, it becomes so severe that it develops into a phobia known as “chrometophobia”.

While this is relatively rare, anxiety over spending is fairly common.

According to an August 2025 article in Money Marketing, in 2025, UK adults report negative emotions associated with spending retirement savings, including:

  • Anxiety (26%)
  • Fear (18%)
  • Guilt (15%)

If this is you, it could mean that you’re missing out on opportunities and experiences that you could well afford.

This is where a strong financial strategy can help. It would be easy to assume that financial planning deals only with saving, investing, and maximising wealth.

While these are key elements, the essence of financial planning is to help you live a rewarding life – during work, retirement, and beyond.

Living the life of your dreams is a key aspect of financial planning

To start spending your wealth with confidence, it can help to first define your life goals. These form the cornerstone of your financial plan, shaping your saving and spending to help you live the life of your dreams.

For example, they could include:

  • Buying a second property or a holiday home
  • Spending more time with your family
  • The age at which you’d like to retire
  • Travelling more.

Life goals are different for everyone, which is why bespoke financial advice is so important.

Cashflow modelling can project your finances over a range of scenarios, giving you increased spending confidence

Once you’ve identified what your goals are, you can map out your financial future, perhaps with the support of a financial planner.

Using a process called “cashflow modelling”, a financial planner can help to ascertain what income you are likely to need during retirement to live your dream lifestyle. Then, they can assess how well your wealth is organised to support those goals.

Using sophisticated software, your planner inputs details of your current income, spending, savings, investments, and pensions, along with your expected income and expenditure in later life. The software then factors in assumptions about inflation, tax, and investment growth to project how your finances might evolve over time, helping you visualise the impact of different life events and scenarios.

Plus, it will incorporate your tolerance to, and capacity for, losses, as well as how much you need to reach your goals. You can adjust these to see how outcomes might change.

Cashflow modelling can give you increased confidence that your savings will support your goals, as well as give you an idea of how different levels of spending could impact this.

While this process doesn’t offer any guarantees, it can offer educated guidance into your potential financial future.

Providing for your loved ones doesn’t always mean saving above spending

Effective estate planning is also a key part of financial confidence. If you’re thinking about how to provide for your loved ones after you’re gone, you may feel guilty spending money on yourself, and building up your wealth could seem like the logical move.

However, Inheritance Tax (IHT) rules can be complex, and simply leaving a large estate to your loved ones could mean you inadvertently land them with a large tax bill.

In some cases, spending some of your wealth to keep within the IHT threshold, which in 2025/26 is £325,000, could actually prove to be a more cost-effective option.

Get in touch

If you struggle with the concept of spending, it can often help to reframe it. Think of spending as investing in enriching your life, in the same way as saving is investing in your future.

If you’d like to talk to us about any aspect of financial planning, please get in touch, and we’ll be happy to help.

Please note: This blog is for general information only and does not constitute financial advice, which should be based on your individual circumstances. The information is aimed at retail clients only.

The Financial Conduct Authority does not regulate estate planning, cashflow planning, or tax planning.

The value of your investments (and any income from them) can go down as well as up, and you may not get back the full amount you invested. Past performance is not a reliable indicator of future performance. 

Investments should be considered over the longer term and should fit in with your overall attitude to risk and financial circumstances.

Reviews and Ratings for Financial adviser Ray Martin, Kingston-upon-Thames

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Our former financial adviser was retiring and recommended Ray to us. He alleviated the constant worry of where to best invest our savings without too much risk. We’re very pleased with the results over the last 10 years. He explains things in layman's language, which we appreciate, and gives us the confidence we have made the right choices. What more can people expect?

Kathleen

We had pension policies and investments that needed sorting out ready for retirement. We didn't know what to expect from a financial adviser. We assumed that he would simply advise us where to get the best deals. How wrong we were. Ray took us right back to basics. He made us carefully consider what we really wanted to achieve. He has allowed us to start to really enjoy our retirement.

Michael

I needed financial advice about pensions and investments as I approached retirement. My wife was in the same position. Ray Martin worked out a comprehensive plan for putting my pension provision and savings into proper order. He did the same for my wife. He has continued to provide us with advice ever since. Ray is always straightforward, open and proactive.

Laurence

I was approaching retirement and wanting to look into limiting taxation and Inheritance Tax, as well as providing for my wife. Ray provided sound advice to switch from my current arrangement to a Drawdown Pension and ISA investments. I have now retired and have started seeing the benefits of his advice. The returns on my portfolio have increased beyond expectation. Ray performed extremely well.

Demetri

I had sold my house and didn't know how to invest the money. Ray invested very wisely and there has been about a 5% increase every year. He listened to our queries, gave answers that we fully understood and followed any requests. He always had time for us, and never rushed us. We would have been financially at a loss without his help.

Brian

Ray has been advising my wife and me for about 20 years. He is everything one could hope for in a financial adviser: wonderfully enthusiastic, extremely well informed, completely trustworthy and scrupulously observant of the regulatory requirements. He is able to explain complex matters very clearly, and so far, his advice has always been first class.

Oliver

I had money to invest and had no idea how to go about investing it and hopefully making a gain. I have three children and wanted advice about inheritance planning. Ray is very patient, very clear when he explains things, he is very interested in me as a person, totally trustworthy and is an excellent listener. We have never been disappointed! He`s been brilliant.

Rosie

I had just been widowed. Ray sorted out and simplified what was a very complex set of investments into a much less confusing portfolio. I have been extremely happy with everything Ray has advised over the last 12 years. Whilst moving with the times, he has dealt with all aspects of my investments wisely and given me all the guidance and help I have needed.

Pat

As the financial director of a company, I was seeking to get advice on how to plan and invest for retirement. Without a doubt, Ray Martin helped me understand and plan how to fund my retirement. Ray has been with me every step of the way. His advice has been invaluable. I retired and achieved my annual income goal. His continued advice is helping me in the next stage of my life.

Mike

I needed some advice regarding my late mother’s estate. I had also retired and required advice on how to manage my private pension. Ray was extremely helpful, and his advice was very clear and easy to understand. I came away from our initial meeting feeling very relieved and less stressed. We have just had our first yearly review and I was surprised how well my investments had done.

Jane

In the last 10 years, my circumstances have changed with the passage of time. Ray has guided me on how to protect and make my money grow. He listens carefully to my needs and gives clear, concise advice in a professional manner. He and his team are always accessible and patient with my questions and their approach gives me confidence that my finances are securely looked after.

Glenys

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